Where Are They Now? Marry Your Baby Daddy Couple Update

Married in 2005 wedding, Millicent & Gary

1.  How has your relationship changed since you been married?

Since I have been married, my husband and I are alot closer. We share alot more of ourselves with each other, we are at ease to let go of feelings, emotions that we might have been holding back. We love harder.

2.  If you can give advice to any unwed couple with children contemplating marriage, what is it?

When you are unwed with children the whole situation changes when you get married, values for the kids change, they see mom and dad are married now. Your daughter will think that is what I want to do before or when I have kids. Your son will say I need to do that when I have kids or before I have kids. Things in the home feel more stable.

3.  What was one challenge you experienced as a married couple and how did you overcome it?

The one challenge I experienced when I got married is sharing the major decision making with my husband, I was always so use to doing it all by myself. But now it is his right also to be apart of that.

4.  How has your marriage affected your children?  Has it made them closer, happier?

My marriage made my children happier, my husband and I have been together now for 17 years and I have a now 19 year old daughter, his step daughter. After we got married was when she decided to call him dad, my 7 year old who at the time was 3 still talks about the wedding, and loves the idea that we are now a whole family.  You really do not feel whole until circle is complete.

5. What are some parts of your marriage you are working to improve?  If none, then tell us your secret!

The part of our marriage we are trying to improve is our spiritual connection with God. You constantly learn something new about one another, so improving on patience is a must.

6. Has your marriage bought you and your spouse closer? Explain.

My marriage certainly has brought us closer as a couple, you feel secure with one another. The responsibilities can now be shared equally, you get the comfort to know that it's not all on you anymore. You know that someone has your back no matter what.

7. Do you and your spouse have a date night or something "special" you do together?  If so, explain.  If not, why not?

Do we! You have to keep that and God in your marriage especially if you have kids. I was recently treated to a seven hour day at Maximus Spa, the entire day was pure pleasure.  We arranged for my parents to spend the night with the kids. I got dressed at the spa, he came to pick me up dressed in his suit, escorted me to the the car, hair done, nails done, everything done, smelling good. He was looking just as handsome, we went to a fancy restaurant, then got a beautiful room, the rest is heaven. We planned this date night for three months and it was worth it.  Every now and then you have to act like strangers to spice things up, that is a very important part of our relationship and of course love.

8.  Name one way MYBDD has changed your life?

MYBD day changed our lives.  The day this beautiful person Maryann gave us a wish, which was to do something we've always wanted to do, we just could not afford to do it the way we wanted, and it has brought nothing but the best after that.  Thank you Maryann!

9.  If there anything else you'd like to add?

I would like to add that with God and each other on the same page nothing can go wrong. God bless.